[DISCLAIMER: Sappy post ahead]
Hello strange little blog of mine,
For some funny reason, I tend to find myself compelled to update this space in the dead of night (yes, I’m such a grandma now that midnight is considered “in the dead of night” to me). This has but one agenda and that is to act as a sounding board for all the changes that’s about to unfold and catapult me out of my comfort zone and into the city of scooters zipping lawlessly in and out of invisible lanes, shouty people and piping hot pho.
I’m about to move to Ho Chi Minh.
When Chinh first approached the subject of me moving with him, I went, “Hell yeah, let’s go.” I didn’t miss a beat. After all, not many people get the opportunity to experience a life abroad, right? And here I am presented with the golden goose of an experience of a lifetime. But as the days went whizzing by (I feel like its especially worse for us in monthly publishing because we’re constantly working towards a deadline for the following month that it feels like the days catch up with us ridiculously quickly but… I digress), I found my apprehension building up like a simmering volcano that can’t make up its goddamn mind. Should I erupt or return to a sleepy dormancy? Hmm… Decisions, decisions.
If you know me, you’ll know that I absolutely detest not having a plan of sorts. I do not enjoy getting into instances whereby I am not aware of what might be the outcome. I do not like not knowing. So the biggest challenge of moving to Vietnam is trying to accept the fact that I have abso-fucking-lutely no idea what to expect. I have zilch idea if I’m going to make friends there, get a job, acclimitise to the culture, find a studio I like to continue my yoga practice, or even build a social life. And it’s the uncertainty that’s killing me. Am I worried? Hell yeah, I’m worried.
An emotional turmoil has been bubbling beneath my faux calm exterior for the past couple of weeks. Before I know it, I will have to say goodbye to Emma, friends, family, the stray cats around my neighbourhood and the familiarity that 25 years of citizenship has bolstered me with. I am terrified. But for some reason today, when I took a glance at the calendar on my desk at work and realise that I essentially have barely a month more in Singapore before I find myself, two luggages and possibly 60kg of shit on a plane to Vietnam, I achieved some kind of odd zen-like revelation – the kind Elite Daily would approve of.
[This is the sappy part]
Dangling from a twine-and-clothespin photo clothesline and sitting next to said desk calendar was a card that came with the flowers Chinh sent to my office when I came back from my press trip to Hong Kong last year.
It dawned on me that I am not alone.
I realised that despite all the uncertainty and apprehension, I am tremendously excited to embark on a journey of the unknown with this guy I met on Tinder barely a year back. Is it crazy? Sure. Am I out of my mind? Possibly. But it’s been a ridiculously surreal 10 months that I’ve had with Chinh. I’ve fielded the question time and time again from the concerned and the more-kaypoh-than-concerned and yes, we have been together for an awfully short period of time and no, we’re not about to get married prior to the move. Things with Chinh just feels right. If I believed in astrology, I would’ve attributed our relationship to our stars aligning. Unfortunately, I don’t so we’re just going to have to leave it to the very unromantic theory that we just fit. Somehow, despite the polar ends on our debates on homosexuality and views on marriage, we fit. We smoothen out each other’s stubborn rough edges and buff the good bits to a shine.
To many, uprooting a life to move to another country for a person you met barely a year ago may be a stupid decision but the stubborn streak in me likes to think it’s some kind of courageous. I’m about to join the league of the stupidly courageous and that’s that.
Saigon, here I come. Captain Foolhardy reporting for duty.